No time for dancing

Yes, I can confirm you are having a Heart Attack and no, you won’t be home in time to watch Strictly Come Dancing

Attending Paramedic

It still seems completely unreal, the events that happened on that Saturday afternoon in November 2018.

Prior to that eventful day on 17th November 2018, I had not had any cardiac problems and I led a very active, healthy, happy life with my family and Dylan our dog and I even enjoyed work, running my Physiotherapy clinic.

I was at home that Saturday afternoon with my husband Jules, daughter Melissa and her fiancé Sam. I decided it was time for a cup of tea so walked towards the kitchen.

The Event

I suddenly felt the most excruciating pain in my left chest/arm and shoulder blade. I collapsed but was fully conscious and started vomiting.

My husband called 999 and the paramedics arrived within 20 minutes. I was wheeled into the ambulance, but my family had to remain outside. The paramedics confirmed I was having a heart attack and I was being taken to Essex CTC at Basildon Hospital and Jules and Melissa were to follow us there.

I have no recollection of events after this and for most of my hospital stay and even when I came home initially, but the lovely paramedics who visited me in hospital a few days later told me I was conscious in the ambulance and all I kept saying was “ please help me.”

 I don’t remember my heroes visiting me in hospital but apparently, I did speak to them and thanked them in amongst a lot of tears.

The following events are from what hospital staff and family have told me happened.

 I suffered my Cardiac Arrest as the paramedics were getting me out of the ambulance at The Essex CTC, in the ambulance bay at 3.59 pm.

They carried out a precordial thump, CPR and defibrillation and by 4.04 pm, 5 minutes later I was back in the land of the living.

This probably sounds bizarrely detailed but although the events were explained to me in hospital, I don’t recall anything of what I was told.

Consequently, after having several months of nightmares about the cardiac arrest, my death and my funeral( … I know, completely irrational as here I am!!) and panic attacks, a lovely cardiac rehab nurse whilst I was doing rehab, suggested we went through my medical notes detailing what actually happened to me.

I was grateful for her taking the time to do this for me as she explained that sometimes knowing the reality of the events is a better alternative, than my subconscious imagining horrific events. Your brain can then start to process what actually happened. She was absolutely right, the nightmares and panic attacks lessened. I understand this would not be for everyone but maybe it’s something others may consider thinking about who are suffering similar problems.

I was taken straight to the Cath Lab and the LAD artery was found to be occluded. A Stent was deployed, and the blood supply was returned to that part of the heart.

It was noted during this procedure that the circumflex artery was diseased but that was for another day.

Soaked

I apparently woke during that night and the nurses told my family that I was very upset, mortified in fact, as my bed was soaking wet. They calmed me down and explained the femoral artery that the angioplasty had been used for was bleeding which is why the bed was wet with blood not because I had had an “accident”. It shows what a weird place my thinking was at this time as I was apparently so reassured by this news that I was bleeding and not weeing myself that, I went back to sleep!

Two doctors arrived and “re-plugged “the artery, quite an exciting night for the fellow patients next to me but I was completely oblivious.

My poor husband and family over the next few days were met by me either in constant tears or saying, “I’m fine” or confused and asking people “am I dead?”.

 My family were amazed that most of the medical professionals got the more acceptable response to questions i.e.: sobbing or “I’m fine” and luckily not often the “am I dead?”

 I feel so bad now as at the time I was so unaware of everything including not able to appreciate the horrific time they went through on that Saturday.

Although I was conscious, I was far removed from Catriona the wife and mum they knew and loved. One day I was constantly swearing when they arrived which is hilarious now looking back as the “old” Catriona was not prone to this sort of outburst, but it must have been distressing for them.

I was quite upset to find out from them months later that they were never asked by the ward if they were ok during this time, or if and how they were coping with the aftermath of the devastating event that had happened.

I think this would have provided such a huge support to them if it had been forthcoming as really, they were in such as state of shock and fear whereas although I was confused and very emotional, I was oblivious to what had happened and what was happening.

However, I do appreciate that resources are stretched to the limit and all the staff are rushed off their feet keeping everything going on the ward looking after the patients.

The pain from my ribs and sternum following the CPR made even moving in bed let alone walking almost impossible but that was the tiniest price to pay to be alive once again… and of course, they would heal.

Shock

We had the biggest shock of the whole episode on my 4th day being in hospital.

The doctor told me I was being discharged from hospital as I was “haemodynamically stable” but I later learnt that my LVET was only 32% at this point, which meant I was still in quite a high level of heart failure. My husband questioned the doctor whether I was well enough to go home as I was barely mobile and “not myself” and I apparently all I kept saying I was too scared to go home yet and cried yet again (I don’t normally cry all the time you will be pleased to know).

The doctor’s reply was “you may as well be scared at home rather than sitting being scared in hospital”.

Maybe we were just fussing but the look of shock from the staff nurse to this Dr’s reply confirmed maybe our feelings and concerns were perhaps valid. More tears from me followed but off we went with our big bag of new medication both feeling terrified.

It took us nearly an hour to get from the ward to the entrance as we had to keep stopping and sitting down. I was so short of breath, I felt so weak and my ribs were agony.

Blur

Those first few days at home were a blur to me but hearing from my husband how I was and what I put him through makes me realise how lucky I am to have such an incredible person by my side.

I couldn’t comprehend what had happened, the confusion, the emotional turmoil, I was constantly crying and very frustrated at not being able to physically do anything, it must have been like a living nightmare for him, especially as for the first few weeks he told me later, he stayed awake through the night checking I was still breathing.

I am normally the person who loves to look after everyone, so I can’t imagine how terrified I must have seemed to my husband during this period and I’m sure he wondered, would things ever get better?

After being home for a week my husband was worried about how I was still struggling and not having been given any follow up out-patient appointments when I was discharged, he didn’t know where to turn.

Out of desperation he called the Essex CTC reception and explained the situation. He was transferred to the Cardiac rehab department. Although I hadn’t been referred there as I was awaiting a second Stent procedure in 2 months, they must have heard how concerned he was and asked us to go in and see them for a chat.

Counselling

Liz and Jean the cardiac nurses were fantastic, reassuring, caring and supportive and we will be forever thankful that this was the department that our call just happened to get transferred to and they decided to help.

A couple of counselling sessions were arranged in the rehab department that helped me process what had happened. I know I went to these sessions, but I can’t remember what they involved but I do know they helped me start to cope and accept what had happened.

Also, every week one of the rehab nurses telephoned me to see how things were going during that period when I was waiting to go back into hospital for the second stent.

They truly went above and beyond their duty, absolutely amazing nurses.

I must also mention the Community Heart Failure nurses that have looked after me and continue to, in relation to my heart failure, so professional and caring.  When my heart failure reduced to a certain level, I was able to start my Cardiac Rehab mid-February

3 months after my Cardiac arrest

Cardiac Rehab was great and gave me the confidence in exercising again.

The other patients in the group were lovely and we had quite a laugh. Several of the other patients had had stents as an elective procedure, a couple had pacemakers and one chap had had a heart attack.

Apart from us all being a bit breathless when we were doing the exercise part, I felt that I was quite isolated with the specific concerns that I had as a result of the cardiac arrest especially as attending these classes was all before I found the Sudden Cardiac Arrest UK Group

I later realised these weird symptoms I had were sequelae and were often a common result of surviving a Cardiac Arrest.

In my case these included fatigue, forgetting words and even what I was saying mid-sentence, emotionally unpredictable, difficulty in processing what I was reading and feeling quite anxious about whether it was all going to happen again.

I didn’t feel comfortable opening up to the rest of the class about these weird symptoms that I didn’t even understand myself at the time.

I must mention how much help, support and reassurance Paul Swindell and his website Sudden Cardiac Arrest UK and Facebook group have given me since I “found” them a few months ago.

The Podcasts are excellent and inspiring, and the medical based ones are so informative- who knew that statins not only reduce cholesterol, but they have an anti-inflammatory effect on the artery walls…amazing.

I was also interested to hear from one of the podcasts about The CARE Team that see CA survivors at The Essex CTC and follow them up with appropriate treatment and support in the months that follow.

I did wonder why I wasn’t seen by the CARE Team when I was a patient at The Essex CTC following my CA, but I later learnt that I was unfortunately just “missed” in the system.

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However, having met the lovely Dr Tom Keeble who set up the CARE Team at the Sudden Cardiac Arrest Event in Rutland recently, he arranged for me to be assessed by the CARE Team at Essex CTC and I am now being looked after by them which I am so grateful for.

Blackouts

Just before my 1st Rebirthday in November a few weeks ago I started to have blackouts that have turned out to be cardiac in nature. The first one I had was when out walking and I landed on my face, split my chin, cut my face, broke my wrist and came to with my gorgeous dog Dylan lying by my side on the pavement licking my hand.

The second one was less dramatic and a lovely chap (who subsequently kindly helped me) witnessed me collapsing into the road, no broken bones but very embarrassing.

I’ve just had a loop recorder implanted and I am going into hospital in January to have a Stress MRI. Once the arrhythmia that is causing this to happen has been identified they can treat it, so all very positive apart from another period of not driving.

I had to close my Physiotherapy Clinic following the cardiac events of November 2018, which was quite a blow, financially and emotionally.

I just couldn’t manage working full time and the extra work that running a small business entail. It wasn’t just the physical symptoms of tiredness, fatigue and episodes of being breathless, but I really feel my brain was working slower then. Forgetting words and forgetting what I was saying halfway through a sentence, as well as not processing what I was reading quickly caused more anxiety and made me lose confidence in my professional abilities and any social situation in general.

Progress

However, several months on things are slowly improving and life is getting better and I thought I would give you a few examples of the positive things that have happened since the Cardiac Arrest, which I think are good to recognise.

– I have just managed to get a part-time Physio/Hydrotherapy job in a local hospital on the bank rota. I cannot believe how stressful it was having my first interview in 20 odd years -terrifying how professional interviews are these days!

 I still remember my first interview for my first NHS job as a newly qualified physio 33 years ago. I say interview but I telephoned the Superintendent Physiotherapist and asked about the job and we had a lovely chat for 20 minutes or so and at the end of the call I was told I had the job………….those were the days!

-I have joined a Watercolour Art Class which I absolutely love. It was always something I said I would get back to when I had more time but work and life always got in the way.

–  I am back walking regularly (avoiding those pesky hills), thanks to my gorgeous dog Dylan who gave me the confidence to get out the house in those first few months and was always a constant companion in the house when I was terrified to be on my own.

Very sadly, Dylan has recently died which has been such a huge loss to us all, but he will always be my hero………I am still walking but I now listen to podcasts for the company including the brilliant ones from our Paul Swindell.

– I was referred for counselling many months ago following my Cardiac Arrest and recently I have started a course of treatment which I have found really helpful.

One thing I have learnt from the sessions that I thought I would share is realising with the help of the counsellor is it OK to feel angry sometimes about how life has changed since the cardiac arrest. It was something I have been struggling with and have never mentioned to anyone, not even friends and family as I felt it made me seem so incredibly ungrateful and not thankful to be one of the lucky 8% to have survived this horrendous life-changing event.

Recovery

All survivors know how lucky and fortunate we are to be given a second chance at living this wonderful life but if you sometimes feel angry and frustrated about things, we miss that’s OK too, it’s all part of the recovery.

I have found writing this account such a helpful thing to do and I would encourage others to do the same when they feel ready. In some way putting it on paper has made it feel less of a muddled scary experience and it gave us as a family a chance to be very open and honest about the whole episode especially as they had to fill in the huge gaps when I have no memory of events and for me to understand more about how it impacted on them.

I’m afraid I have no profound words of wisdom to end on but to wish you all well, enjoy life as much as you can and let’s face it, life will still be a mix of happiness as well as sadness and stress but being a cardiac arrest survivor gives you an amazing strength to face anything.

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