Q: How has your family dynamic or relationships changed?
Responses with name, age at SCA and time since
Even more open with my parents
Lee, 37, 5 1/2 years
My wife provided me with the CPR. Undoubtedly, she has been affected by this and we live on that knife edge waiting for the next arrest. At least the ICD provides a degree of comfort.
Andy, 51, 5 years
Friends trained in CPR
Stewart, 53, 3 years
All family worried
Pat, 51, 15 months
Relationship with parents is much more tense.
Clare, 31, Almost 5 months.
I have strong family and friends who not only supported me initially but also support each other ongoing.
Mark, 56, 14 months
My children constantly worry
Joanne, 48, 23 months
Once the dust settled, everything reverted to normal quickly. My poor husband was very good at repeatedly filling in my memory gaps.
Michelle, 42, 4 years
My husband performed CPR on me, never doing it before, he witnessed everything along with my 8 year old daughter. It was very hard for them to come to terms with it all, they were very shocked and my daughter received a little counselling at school. Since, my husband can be a nervous wreck if I cough in a funny way, he tries to limit was I do and that can be extremely frustrating. But, as I have said to them, I was the fortunate one, and understand, I did not have to experience the event – I wasn’t there!
Judy, 39, 3 years
My family don’t seem too affected by what has happened.
Joe, 52, 4 weeks
Husband worries alot
Dawn, 48, 3 years
Graeme, 36, 10 years
Family has changed partner took early retirement to care after discharge. I no longer work.
Kym, 40, 3 years
No, I’m stoic around them.
Anon, 36, 11 years
Tracy, 50, 3 years
No Change in family situation
Sue, 51, 8 months
A lot closer as a family . I worry about my daughter, who witnessed my arrest . I know she thinks about it every day .
Michelle, 50, 1 year
I have moved closer to my family since SCA but not the same city. My daughter has a long term illness so I guess I understand how she feels a bit better now.
Robyn, 57, 18 months
My mum and I clashed a lot as we both had to deal with our emotions seperately. I’m not a very emotional person whereas my mum is so we constantly argued for a good year. Now we’re both a lot better as time has gone by and we’ve both had seperate counselling.
Imogen, 21, 2 years
Husband who did CPR cries everyday. Though he has kept it secret.
Lisa, 35, 4 months
Maureen, 68, 7 years
My SCA happened in bed 7:50am kids age 3 & 6 were in bed with us for morning time just before we got out of bed, bang! My wife had to carry out CPR and look after the kids…. Words can’t explain what they have been through……
Ben, 32, 1 year 2 months
Realise what a fantastic family I have
Michelle, 43, 5 years
It has brought us all closer
Natasha, 25, 4.5 years
We are all even closer now!
Carly, 34, 1 month
Always had a good relationship, but I value them even more
Julie, 31, 8 years
Actually brought us closer together.
Brenden, 56, 4 years
My family have been very supportive
Lynne, 47, 21 months
Although it was a huge shock for everyone it’s not changed anything me having heart problems and being in hospital is ‘normal’
Amy, 17, 14 years
My family treat and regard me no differently than before. My youngest son was with me during my 2nd arrest at home. He was 8 at the time and he got quite a surprise! He’s 31 now so it appears he wasn’t affected.
Mark, 46, 23 years
My husband and daughter were both there with my husband doing CPR for 25 minutes until the ambulance arrived – neither discuss it and change the subject when it is bought up.
Lisa, 40, 7 years